Protect Your Kids From the Impact of Divorce

Divorce can be tough on spouses, but the process can be especially hard on kids. Children may not understand what's happening and may feel caught in the middle. As a parent, while you cannot take all the pain from your children during divorce, you can take some steps to help the kids cope. Discover some tips to help protect your kids from the impact of divorce.

Don't Vent to Your Kids

You are hurting, and you may want to take your frustrations out on your ex. Unfortunately, venting to your kids can damage their emotional well-being. When you badmouth your ex in front of the kids, you put the kids in a difficult position.

Children love both their parents. Therefore, don't put the kids in a position where they have to choose sides, as that will only cause more confusion. Additionally, when you speak badly about your ex, your children may start to question their self-worth.

If you have to vent, look for a support group or talk to friends away from the children. You can also see a therapist to help you constructively deal with the divorce.

Reassure Your Kids of Both Their Parents' Love

Divorce can make kids feel insecure about the future. The kids may feel like they are to blame for the divorce. As a parent, reassure your kids that whatever happens between their parents does not change the love you feel for them. Also, explain that just because their parents no longer love each other doesn't mean that the kids cannot see both parents.

Don't Seek Sympathy From the Kids

You should be your children's support system, not the other way around. Although you may break down from time to time, avoid doing so in front of your children. Instead, gather your strength and be the support that they need during this difficult time.

Send a positive message to your kids that you are strong and they can look up to you.

Encourage the Kids to Spend Time With Both Parents

If possible, try to maintain a cordial relationship with your ex. This way, you can encourage the kids to spend time with both parents without feeling like they are caught in the middle. This step will also send a positive message to your kids that although their parents don't love each other anymore, they can still get along for the children's sake.

Create a consistent routine for the kids so they know what to expect. For example, if the kids spend Monday, Wednesday, and Friday with you and Tuesday and Thursday with their other parent, try to stick to that schedule as much as possible. This tip will provide some stability for the kids during uncertainty.

Don't Be in a Rush to Introduce a New Partner

If you start dating again, avoid introducing your new partner to the kids too soon. Otherwise, the kids may feel like they are being replaced. Also, if the relationship doesn't work out, that may leave the kids with more emotional confusion and hurt.

Take things slow when you are ready to introduce a new partner to the kids. Start with small interactions and gradually increase the time spent together. Also, make sure that your new partner is someone who will be good for your children and treat them well.

Consult an Attorney

Divorce with kids gets more manageable with a good family attorney on your side. The attorney can help protect your rights as a parent and ensure that the children's best interests are taken into consideration. Also, the lawyer will help you create a parenting plan that will be in the children's best interests.

Knollmeyer Law Office is a trusted family law firm that can help you with your divorce case. We have experience handling complex divorce cases and can provide you with the guidance and support you need. Contact us to schedule a consultation.